It’s OK if you have not done them yet.

I’m talking about your goals and intentions for 2023.

⚡ Maybe the energy is just not there right now.

⚡ Maybe you still have to come up with something that really lights you up.

⚡ Maybe you’ve been so busy with your social life that you haven’t had time to take a moment with yourself and process.

Not because everyone is sharing theirs, it means that you have to have yours ready.

You may feel as if you're already behind or missing out if you haven’t burnt what you’re leaving behind and figured out the new year’s ‘you’. 

It’s just the 3rd day of the year.

Be kind to yourself.

Trust your own process.

You do you. Honour your own process.

You can work on your intentions anytime and it’s always better if the energy is available.

Some people take their birthday as their start of the year and set their intentions then.

Others choose to align more with the seasons. If you think of it, having December as the year end was just a convention to adopt the Gregorian calendar. 

Maybe you’ll have more clarity in March with the spring, when things open up in the northern hemisphere and the energy of change in the southern hemisphere’s autumn.

What matters is that you check in with yourself and honour your own process, so you come up with aligned intentions when the time comes.

Over the years, I moved from RESOLUTIONS to INTENTIONS and now I’m more thinking about a THEME or a WORD for my year. 

It leaves more room for Life to do its work and helps me let go of the outcome (did I make it or not?) and open up to what comes my way.

If you feel inspired to work on these now, remember that you don’t have to do it all alone. There are many tools that can support your process: going into nature, working with journaling prompts, creating a vision board, and so on.

I hope this helps!

Happy new 2023!!



Would you say this is broken? 🧩

My guess is that you’d actually say, “What’s got into her? “Of course not!”.

And, if you’re anything like me, you’d be already rolling up your sleeves and diving right in, with curiosity and excitement to see it coming together.

Even when it doesn’t look like it, you’d be able to see it as a Whole, knowing that it’s just a matter of putting the pieces together. 

You’d be somewhat following these steps: 

A puzzle implies a mystery to be solved or something to be put together.

How wonderful!

What if we took the same outlook on ourselves and on life? 

Remembering that nothing is ever broken, we were always Whole.

Knowing there is a space for every single piece, a perfect fit. 
Every single experience, learning, mishap, adventure, has a place in it. It belongs here, for whatever reason, even if we don't understand or want it, it is one piece of a large and beautiful picture.

Just like with any puzzle, the key is to stay curious and excited, trust the rhythm of the Universe and find a method that works for us, knowing that we’ve always been Whole. 

Shall we?

#coaching #lifecoach #spirituality #strategy #vision

“Please, Please, make it stop!!!” The man sitting next to me on the plane started screaming as soon as we took off. 

I’m ‘team window’ as you can see from my picture, and I usually fall asleep before take-off, so when he grabbed my arm and said “I don’t feel well”, it took me a couple of seconds to react.
The person on the aisle was faster and got him the paper bags you use in these cases. 

We calmed him down to the best of our ability; we explained that planes are the safest means of transport - I even shared that my brother was a pilot and that there was nothing to be afraid of. 

But this was not the point, Carlos was not afraid, he just didn’t feel well in his body. He could not breathe properly and thus was panicking.

When the seatbelt sign went off, he was calmer and managed to explain that it was his first time on a plane, and that if he had known about this, he’d have never taken the job opportunity abroad. 

He was not properly prepared for the experience; nobody had explained to him what he might feel throughout the flight. 

Once in our awareness, we ‘the experts’ could serve him, support him and guide him throughout the flight. We kept an eye out for him and we were able to anticipate what might happen in case of turbulence (which we had flying through #Eunice) and during landing. 

“Carlos, we’re about to land. I normally get ear pain at this point”. 
“YES! I’m feeling that now”.
“Ok, here’s what you can do: Chewing gum and forcing a yawn works for me. Try if it does for you too”.

What could have been a very long 13 hour flight from Buenos Aires to Amsterdam for all, turned into a shared experience for all 3 of us strangers.

Here are some thoughts and learnings I’d like to share with you from this experience:

- It can be uncomfortable to hear someone’s ask for help, but we should not make it about ourselves.

I realised this was not about me saving the day, it was about holding space for him and for what he needed. He allowed us to do so by showing his #vulnerability

How many people suffer but don’t say anything about it? 
How can we stay open to the signs? 

- Do not make any assumptions (the Third Agreement). Instead, find the courage to ask questions. “What do you need right now?” 

- In hindsight, this is not too different from a #coaching journey. As a coach, I guide and support my clients through what I’m an expert in and what I have experienced myself: a spiritual transformational journey, reinventing myself in a new country and designing a life I love to live. 

When you work with someone who knows what’s coming and what tools can support you, the journey is much more enjoyable and feels safer!

Would you like to explore what that could look like for you?

Book a discovery call with me here.

With love, Paula

Setting intentions does ✨

These last days of the year are a wonderful opportunity to reflect on the year that passed and to start tapping into the life we want to lead and the world that we want to create. It’s all about opening up to new possibilities.

You might be used to working with new year resolutions, but they seldom work. In my experience, there’s a slight difference between them and intentions, so let me share why I choose to go with the latter, for myself and my clients.

RESOLUTIONS involve behavioural changes that we know are beneficial. We aim at letting go of what no longer serves us. However, when thinking of resolutions, we look at what’s “wrong” in our lives and therefore, we might even feel some guilt or pressure if we go off-track. 

INTENTIONS on the other hand, are linked to what we want to create, how we want to feel and they ask to bring mindfulness to our actions while making efforts to change, without being attached to an outcome. Therefore, they bring a much more loving and compassionate energy. 

They are all about letting go and letting come what’s of the highest good for all. 

When setting #intentions, think of questions like:

-How do I want the new year to unfold? 
-Why will it be great? What would happen in an ideal world?
-What new opportunities do I want to explore?
-How do I want to feel throughout the year?
-What will give me energy this year?

I invite you to think of Intentions and a couple of SMART Goals to support them - we do need some structure to do the work after all 😉

‘Where intention goes, energy flows’. So when writing them down, focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want. Be bold with your desires and always do your best! 

Keep an eye out for my last post of the year, as I will share a very practical tool that I use to Reflect & Plan the year ahead in line with the intentions we've set.

Until then, happy intentions setting! 🙌

“To be honest, I really want to live by the sea” my friend confessed in a recent phone conversation. As she went on sharing her recent experience in Puerto Madryn, Argentina, I noticed how her tone of voice enlivened! 

“I feel I belong there”, she said.

“That's great! I’m so happy for you. What are you going to do about it?” 

“Meh, I’m not sure… I feel guilty about leaving everyone and everything behind. And besides, what will people think of me?”

As an expat myself, I get where she’s coming from and I know how she feels. I change gears:

‘Tell me, who are the 5 most important people in your life?’

She was quick to answer - “My parents, siblings, nephew”. Proud, not a single doubt.

“That’s so sweet. And what about You?” 😏  it was indeed a tricky question.


“Oh, I see what you did there… I get it, thank you”.

9 out of 10 people answer in the same way - and I use this question often - not just with expats but with everyone prioritising everyone else but themselves when it comes to work, relationships, any kind of decision, etc.

Maybe you’re thinking it’s selfish to do so, or that it feels good to be there for others. 

Well, let me share this with you: there’s a reason why you put your oxygen mask on first in case of need during a flight.

You can only show up fully for others when you have attended to yourself first. 

What’s opening up for you as you read this? 
What are you not allowing yourself to do because of guilt or of what others may think?
As the new year approaches, what do you want to leave behind?

Think about everything you believe, but don’t believe everything you think".

There are many stories we told ourselves, or the decisions we made about ourselves, at some point in our life to protect ourselves.

Our thoughts, if we think them over and over, and assign truth to them, become beliefs and drive our behaviours. And as our mind likes to be right, it will always look for evidence that matches up with what we believe to be true.

But this can be shifted once we recognise that our thoughts are just thoughts, and that they don’t hold true anymore. The easiest way to do so is to start looking for evidence to prove a different statement.

I’d like to share my own experience with you.

Early 2020, I was informed that my super-cool role couldn’t continue as such, and I had to make a choice between staying employed (different/ lower role) and keeping my salary, or leave and figure out what to do next. Not chill.

Internally, I knew what I needed to do, my whole body was telling me “take the less travelled road, there’s surely something new opening up for you”. Plus, taking a position that was meant for someone who really wanted it, just because I was afraid wouldn’t feel good.

But my mind? Oh, it was very active with all the reasons why I should play it safe. Else, I’d be digging my own grave. I started searching for opportunities in the company, spending time and energy on this when there was a hiring freeze that had caused my role to be made redundant…

“You just cannot leave a safe job in the middle of a global crisis”.

Until I, with the help of a coach, managed to break through the stories rooted in fear I was telling myself, my internal conflict kept draining me.

The narrative? That I wouldn’t find another job, that I wasn’t good enough to make it on my own, too old to start over, that my expertise wasn’t valued and that I’d be better off staying where I was.

Was this true? Of course not! In hindsight, I had built a life in the Netherlands on my own, reinvented myself, made a successful career, even created my own role! But that didn’t seem to amount for much when fear was in the driver’s seat.

The way out was to acknowledge that I was scared.

That there was no truth in me not being good enough to follow the path that was opening up for me.

That everything is perfect as is, because Life has a better plan than anything we can fathom.

I decided to trust myself and took my leap of faith. I had my breakthrough, my life changed and I’m living in alignment. So much so, that now I’m helping others reconnect with themselves and have their own #breakthroughs with my #coaching.

For me it was my job, but it could have been a relationship, or anything else.

So my questions to you are: What is your one decision that has the potential to change your life? How are you going to break through what’s holding you back?

Hurt people hurt people. We hurt each other because we ourselves are hurting.

How would it look if we would come to conversations Knowing that everyone is fighting their own battles?

This is very alive in me because of a conversation I had yesterday with a dear friend of mine. Our actions hurt each other, not on purpose, but they did. 

We hurt because we are already in pain, and this causes us to become defensive and self-protective. In its rawest, it seems a self-preservation mechanism. 

But are we in real danger? 

What do we actually fear? 

Can we acknowledge the pain?

We can and this is how we start healing. Seeing our pain, and seeing the pain in the other. If hurt people hurt people, the opposite must be true. 

We’re interconnected. If we manage to let go of ourselves and our need to be right, to hear an apology. 

If we allow the ice-shield protecting our hearts to melt, we might allow the other person to see our pain too. 

We are all doing our best. I trust that. So I think that apologising for the fact, doesn’t help. Because we did what we knew best with no bad intentions, but blindfolded by our pain.

Acknowledge that even by acting to the best of our abilities, we might hurt others’ feelings. And that, we can address - ‘I’m sorry that my actions caused you pain’. No need to understand or even agree with it. Empathise yes. The other person’s pain is real to them, as much as our’s is to us.

We may not agree with each other, not even feel or fully understand what the other person is going through, but we can accept and acknowledge that there is pain, that the other person’s feelings are as valid to them, as our own to us.

Everyone is the protagonist in the movie of their lives, so not taking anything personal helps. As does not making assumptions. 

Not seeing who has it better or worse, or who’s right or wrong. There is no such thing, and it’s not a competition. 

We see others as we are - we can only see in someone else what we have in us. So let’s just listen for a moment. How did our actions cause pain? 

Having an honest communication can help the other person realise that we’re also hurting, even if we failed to convey the message in the first place. 

Some conversations are tough to have, but how can we afford not to? 

Since I started my own transformational journey, I've dedicated most of my reading to becoming more comfortable with my decision to lead my most authentic life and be the best version of myself.

It felt like a new world unfolded before me, and I constantly come across books that inspire me so much that I eventually share them in my work with my clients.

Here're my summer reads this year, in case they inspire you too!

The Fifth Agreement

A sequel to the Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz and don Jose Ruiz, who remind us of the greatest gift we can give ourselves: the freedom to be who we really are.

This book is a guide to Self-Mastery we can all make use of 😉

The Surrender Experiment

by M.A. Singer - After a deep spiritual awakening, he decided to let go of his personal preferences and simply let life call the shots. His message is about trusting that the Universe has a better plan than any we can 'think' of.

The Culture Map

by Erin Meyer - We are all the same, and yet we are all different. As the culture in which we grow up has a profound impact on how we see the world, I found this book very useful, not just for work but also for life as an #expat 🙂

La Revolución que Esperábamos

by Claudio Naranjo - A new #consciousness revolution is here. It took me a while to connect with his writing style, but I now see this as an imprescindible read for educators. He explores concepts such as the end of patriarchy, the transformation of education, the development of the three loves and the path of self-knowledge as the necessary antidotes for the transformation of a world in crisis.

I enjoyed all of them!

Have you read any of them? What is your biggest insight? Let me know via Instagram DM or LinkedIn.

“I know what I don’t like but I have no clue what I like, and what I am really good at”. 

“I want to take a different career path, but I have no idea where to begin”.

“I hear I should follow my passion, but I wouldn’t know what it is or where to even begin”. 

I hear this all too often, and I’ve been there myself too. You see, we are not trained to think like that and we're too busy finding our answers outside when, as usual, the answers to these questions are already within yourself. You just need to go inwards and find them.

Does this resonate with you? Then I suggest you use this exercise as a starting point.

How to find your Zone of Genius

Get a pencil and a big sheet of paper to allow for your creativity to flow freely. You'll need to do some writing here.

Draw 4 intersecting circles - like the ones in the picture below.

The intersection of these circles is your Zone of Genius - you might also know it as Ikigai - a Japanese concept which translates to "your reason for being". 

Your Zone of Genius is the intersection between your
Passion, Values, Skills and Talents.

In each circle you'll write 4 big words: Passion, Skills, Talents and Values - which you will need to complete as follows:


What you’d do all day, for FREE, if all your needs were covered. This is what makes you FEEL GOOD. It’s OK if you don’t know what that is right now. It will come, allow yourself to be OK with not knowing yet.


What you’ve learned in your journey to-date. Every single tool and process in your know-how. What you’ve studied, the software you use in your current job, a methodology, etc. These are transferable competencies.


What you’re naturally good at. It’s all what you do effortlessly. Not sure what? Ask a (good) friend or family. These might be things you often disregard as non-important: being a good listener, holding space for others, having the right word of encouragement, drawing, communicating, etc.


What matters most to you than anything else. This is your WHY, your filter-system to make any heart-aligned decision.

Here's a nice reminder if you want to save it.

Click on the image to see it bigger

Your Zone of Genius is that which only you can do like nobody else. It’s almost as unique to you as your fingerprint.

Ideally, you want to try to spend as much time as you can operating from there. 

Though many of the things you've jotted down are for life, some of them might not hold so true throughout your entire life. We (hopefully) evolve, and so does this list.

For example, some of your Values are inherent to you, and others might change as you grow - in age and in wisdom 😉

This is a "live" list, you might add or remove things that are not necessarily true for you in different stages of your life.

Therefore, I suggest you have this very present and use it as a guide to check-in with yourself whenever you're considering a next step or move.

Give this a try and let me know if you find it useful! You can reach out to me also via my Instagram Account.

And also please share with whoever might find value in it as well.

With love,


By now we’ve all probably heard about “the Great Resignation”, a term coined by Management Professor Anthony Klotz, stemming from the rising numbers of workers considering a job change as pandemic restrictions ease and companies call employees back to the office. 

recent survey revealed 41% of workers are thinking about resigning from their jobs. But why? The pandemic gave workers more free time to think about their careers, explore entrepreneurship and save more money — leading many to realise their current job was not fulfilling. Is this true for you?

I personally like to think of the ‘Great Resignation’ as one of the ways that the tendency towards a more conscious living is manifesting.

One of the first things I noticed when we went on lockdown last year was that though many of us struggled with the restrictions, others were actually quite OK with the new imposed pace. There was some sense of ease in the lack of social commitments and the forced slowing down.

For me, other than making sure home was a place I wanted to spend time in, there wasn’t much to do. I felt at ease and enthusiastic about this new time affluence allowing me to take extra care of myself and for the new invitation to reassess my life. 

The lockdown forced me, as well as many of us, to stop.

The STOP is a well known coaching acronym that stands for :

Stop whatever you're doing, just pause for a moment.

Take a deep breath, which is our anchor to the here and now.

Observe what is happening inside and outside of you.

Proceed with a new awareness.

When we pause, in a world that is more challenging and demanding than ever, we are given the opportunity to go inwards and take stock of how we really feel about the things we do, and compare them with how we think we should feel about them. 

If we allow for it, we can make space to feel what needs to be felt, to see what needs to be seen, to do what needs to be done, and to simply BE. It might be a bit uncomfortable, but this is the first step towards a conscious living. 

Change is inevitable, but it's also a choice

Of course, there’s always a choice. To do nothing about it and get distracted with some mindless phone scrolling and online shopping, or to get curious and see what’s in there for us. And I think many of us opted for the second option.

We started asking ourselves questions about our lives in general - and I dare to say that we’ve all made a change or two that might have not been foreseen - be it work, health, creativity or relationships related.

Conscious Living begins with paying enough attention to every aspect of our life, so that we move from living in #autopilot mode - or “letting life happen to us” - to living with #intent.

It’s about bringing mindfulness to our days, and taking it a step further. For it is not just the awareness that matters - it’s caring enough to act based on it and choosing with ourselves and the world around us in our mind and heart. 

Embarking on this journey towards Conscious Living not only means getting curious about why and how we do what we do but it also invites us to challenge and even change old ideas and ways of doing, with regards to our relationship with ourselves and others.

As we can only change that which we are aware of, we all deserve to revisit our priorities and definitions of success from time to time:

Living in autopilot puts us at odds with living with purpose and finding flow in our lives.

When we reconnect with our true nature, we understand that we are all One, and that unless we all thrive no-one does. We’re wired for connection and it is paramount to take care of one self and one-another if we want to have a future in this world.

Ultimately, when we learn to become comfortable with the uncomfortable, and we are at ease with making the right choice - whatever it is, as long as it feels right.

Back to the start of this post, there certainly are people resigning jobs and letting go of what no longer serves them, and there are many that are choosing to stay. Not necessarily because they haven’t looked into it, but because having weighed their options, they still find value in what they have for whatever conscious reason. How beautiful is this? 

We can get carried away by the trends and by looking at what’s wrong and missing, but being aware also means taking stock of what there is, what’s working and staying true to what feels right, and change whatever doesn’t.

To be honest, if there is a take away from this last 1.5 year, it’s that we have control over very little, and that in our daily choices lie our growth and freedom.

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Let's connect and co-create a world where everyone 
leads a life they love.

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