‘Tell me, who are the five most important people in your life?’

Our thoughts, if we think them over and over, and assign truth to them, become beliefs and drive our behaviours. And as our mind likes to be right, it will always look for evidence that matches up with what we believe to be true.

But this can be shifted once we recognise that our thoughts are just thoughts, and that they don’t hold true anymore. The easiest way to do so is to start looking for evidence to prove a different statement.

January 5, 2022

“To be honest, I really want to live by the sea” my friend confessed in a recent phone conversation. As she went on sharing her recent experience in Puerto Madryn, Argentina, I noticed how her tone of voice enlivened! 

“I feel I belong there”, she said.

“That's great! I’m so happy for you. What are you going to do about it?” 

“Meh, I’m not sure… I feel guilty about leaving everyone and everything behind. And besides, what will people think of me?”

As an expat myself, I get where she’s coming from and I know how she feels. I change gears:

‘Tell me, who are the 5 most important people in your life?’

She was quick to answer - “My parents, siblings, nephew”. Proud, not a single doubt.

“That’s so sweet. And what about You?” 😏  it was indeed a tricky question.

Silence… 

“Oh, I see what you did there… I get it, thank you”.

9 out of 10 people answer in the same way - and I use this question often - not just with expats but with everyone prioritising everyone else but themselves when it comes to work, relationships, any kind of decision, etc.

Maybe you’re thinking it’s selfish to do so, or that it feels good to be there for others. 

Well, let me share this with you: there’s a reason why you put your oxygen mask on first in case of need during a flight.

You can only show up fully for others when you have attended to yourself first. 

What’s opening up for you as you read this? 
What are you not allowing yourself to do because of guilt or of what others may think?
As the new year approaches, what do you want to leave behind?

January 5, 2022
New year's resolutions don't work.

These last days of the year are a wonderful opportunity to reflect on the year that passed and to start tapping into the life we want to lead and the world that we want to create. It’s all about opening up to new possibilities. You might be used to working with new year resolutions, but they seldom work. In my experience, there’s a slight difference between them and intentions, so let me share why I choose to go with the latter, for myself and my clients.
January 5, 2022
Don't Believe Everything You Think

Our thoughts, if we think them over and over, and assign truth to them, become beliefs and drive our behaviours. And as our mind likes to be right, it will always look for evidence that matches up with what we believe to be true.

But this can be shifted once we recognise that our thoughts are just thoughts, and that they don’t hold true anymore. The easiest way to do so is to start looking for evidence to prove a different statement.

October 15, 2021
Hurt People Hurt People

We hurt each other because we ourselves are hurting. Seeing our pain, and seeing the pain in the other is how we start healing. If hurt people hurt people, the opposite must be true. Some conversations are tough to have, but how can we afford not to?
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